How Do You Handle A Fight With Your Partner?

Recently, I have been blamed for everything negative in our family life. We are almost 20 years together, and we have beautiful three children. The argument started in front of family friends. My husband went negative on our church community, and eventually he doesn’t have a “stop button”, so does his voice tone… that’s when I blurted out to stop and cut it out and not talk about it anymore!

That’s when it got so heated! He started yelling how I am disrespectful to him, and that everything is always my fault!

I mean, I understand why he thought I was disrespectful, because I asked him to stop and be quiet in front of everybody. It just got way too far and so annoying. And this situation isn’t the first time of him being so pessimistic and negative… and that everyone must agree in what he’s saying, and think how he thinks.

This all leaves me drained and empty every single time.

I researched the 20 munute reset approach. But I just don’t feel like starting a conversation soon. Planning with these “piece talks”… I don’t know…

I do know that I have to aim for “I” statements rather than “You”, but I’m just not ready yet…

It’s just incredibly exhausting. It’s one thing to disagree on a topic like church, but it’s a whole different level of hurt when a conversation turns into him “flipping” and making you the scapegoat for his life’s problems.

It’s really hard sometimes to find the middle ground.

I needed to share with this, I believe I’m not the only one here, struggling sometimes with escalating emotions and behavior.

So, however you handle these situations… how do you handle fights and these meltdowns, you can share in comments bellow…

Thanks