How Do You Handle A Fight With Your Partner? Recently, I have been blamed for everything negative in our family life. We are almost 20 years together, and we have beautiful three children. The argument started in front of family friends. My husband went negative on our church community, and eventually he doesn’t have a “stop button”, so does his voice tone… that’s when I blurted out to stop and cut it out and not talk about it anymore! That’s when it got so heated! He started yelling how I am disrespectful to him, and that everything is always my fault! I mean, I understand why he thought I was disrespectful, because I asked him to stop and be quiet in front of everybody. It just got way too far and so annoying. And this situation isn’t the first time of him being so pessimistic and negative… and that everyone must agree in what he’s saying, and think how he thinks. This all leaves me drained and empty every single time. I researched the 20 munute reset approach. But I just don’t feel like starting a conversation soon. Planning with these “piece talks”… I don’t know… I do know that I have to aim for “I” statements rather than “You”, but I’m just not ready yet… It’s just incredibly exhausting. It’s one thing to disagree on a topic like church, but it’s a whole different level of hurt when a conversation turns into him “flipping” and making you the scapegoat for his life’s problems. It’s really hard sometimes to find the middle ground. I needed to share with this, I believe I’m not the only one here, struggling sometimes with escalating emotions and behavior. So, however you handle these situations… how do you handle fights and these meltdowns, you can share in comments bellow… Thanks
“extra revenue” or “fast cash” online gig… They are a TRAP!!! I, myself am a VICTIM of these posts like, ” 14 side hustles that make up to $1,500 of weekly revenue”… or like, “12 night “jobs” that will make you extra $500 to 1k a week”… and so on, and so on… you fill in the blanks… uh… The only people making real money are the ones selling the dream. You end up working for way less than minimum wage once you do the math. Better to put that energy into something that actually scales. I will be real here – literally me, just a few months ago… “I’ve been at my laptop for six hours straight clicking through these ‘high-yield’ surveys and data entry tasks, and my dashboard says I’ve earned… $4.12? Every ‘influencer’ on my feed makes it look so easy. ‘Just three hours a week!’ ‘Passive income!’ Well, I’m doing exactly what they said, and I’m literally losing money on electricity and coffee at this point. Now the site says I can’t even withdraw the $4 until I hit $50? So I have to spend another sixty hours just to see a penny of my own time? It’s a joke. I’m exhausted, I’m broke, and I feel like I’m being scammed in broad daylight while everyone else pretends they’re getting rich. When does the ‘quick revenue’ actually start?” I – like a fool tried everything they suggested… I’ve put so much energy and my time into making my “side hustles” work, until to the point I got more broke, more exhausted, frustrated, angry, hungry mom of 3 children, and a wife. WHAT WAS I THINKING?! FAST MONEY IS A SCAM If these jobs would have worked, everyone would be doing them on the daily basis, 🙄 no need to post something if it’s ordinary, or if this really works!!! Right? I’ve been trading my most valuable asset – TIME – for digital pennies! The sad reality is, that the only people who are getting rich – are the ones who’s writing posts like that (driving thousands online traffic into their page), or the ones who’s selling online courses of these so called “side hustles”!!! And we believe them… we shouldn’t be anymore! We all need to stop buying into this ****, it’s time to get back up and be smart! It’s tough when you’re looking for a financial win and keep running into “get rich quick” dead ends. The internet is full of “side hustles” that are really just digital treadmills. Stop chasing ‘quick weekly revenue.’ Most low-barrier online gigs are just digital treadmills—you’re running hard but staying in the same place. If a job is easy to start and promises fast cash, the payout rarely justifies the time spent. Focus on building high-value skills, not collecting digital pennies. As a VICTIM of this SCAM, my advice to you as a friend: Keep your job – it pays your bills, puts bread on your table, fills gas in your car. Develop ONE skill – it can be a hobby (ex. baking, knitting, blogging), or anything you dreamed of doing and MAYBE BRING EXTRA INCOME. Don’t try to “kill yourself” doing it best right in the first week. You will exhaust yourself and eventually give up. Start small. Remember that new and small beginnings, grow into a BIG future. Start with posting your new skill one time a week, until you get better and better at it, make more and more of social media posts to maybe share with more audience, not just your family and friends. This is true consistency! This process will develop the true you! Where there’s nothing to prove to anybody, but to yourself, that you can definitely master something other than your job. Just this one skill! And see it yourself into what it eventually grows into being your main income, or continuously a fun side hustle that always helps you to express yourself and bring you joy! Take a breath and remember: your value is not measured by your bank balance. Focus on what you can control today!
Make Your Bug Spray Ah, the eternal battle between humans and tiny, winged vampires. Whether you’re heading into the deep woods or just trying to survive a backyard BBQ, picking the right repellent is key. I always thought of the idea that learning how to make a Bug Spray yourself, is a huge benefit. Our nature has all the growing plants avaliable that will help keeping these “vampires” away from us. The most effective Essential Oils that help keeping mosquitos away are: Eucalyptus Lemongrass Citronella Teatree Rosemary Interesting fact: Potted rosemary plants help keep the flies away. Put a few rosemary plants around your kitchen and see the difference it makes. Good to remember: If you’re also wearing sunscreen, apply the sunscreen first, let it dry for 15 minutes, and then apply the bug spray. BUG SPRAY INGREDIENTS In an empty 8 – 10 Oz glass spray bottle mix all these ingredients: 1/2 cup witch hazel 1/2 cup apple cider vinegar (optional) 20 drops citronella essential oil 20 drops lemongrass essential oil (You can substitute these essential oils with either eucalyptus, teatree, rosemary essential oils. See what works best for you). Shake the bottle with mixture and spray evenly on all parts of your body except eyes and mouth. When you make it yourself, you eliminate the “mystery fragrances” and preservatives found in commercial cans. You control the purity of the carrier (like witch hazel or apple cider vinegar) and the quality of the essential oils.
Places worth visiting in Oregon Oregon is a state defined by its diverse landscapes, ranging from the rugged Pacific coastline and temperate rainforests to towering volcanic peaks and high-desert wonders. Whether you are seeking world-class hiking, scenic drives, or unique geological formations, the state offers a vast array of natural beauty. I compiled 7 Oregon destinations that are must see if you are traveling to Oregon. And here they are, let’s dig in… Crater Lake National Park is Oregon’s only national park and features the deepest lake in the United States, formed inside a collapsed volcano.The water is famous for its intense blue color and incredible clarity.Visitors can drive the 33-mile Rim Drive for spectacular views or hike down to the water’s edge at Cleetwood Cove. Silver Falls State Park is the biggest state park in the United States. Often called the “crown jewel” of the Oregon State Parks system for its high concentration of cascades. Features the “Trail of Ten Falls,” a 7.2-mile loop that passes by ten distinct waterfalls. Offers the unique experience of walking behind several massive sheets of falling water. Smith Rock State Park is one of my favorite places to go. This place is surrounded with beautiful trails and views. It provides a sharp contrast with its towering spires of volcanic tuff and rhyolite.Considered the birthplace of modern American sport climbing.Offers the “Misery Ridge” hike, which provides panoramic views of the Crooked River and the surrounding Cascades. Moving into Central and Eastern Oregon, the landscape shifts to a high desert filled with vibrant colors and remote mountain ranges. Painted Hills is one of the three units of the John Day Fossil Beds National Monument, famous for its colorful, striped hillsides. The hills change hues with the light and moisture levels, shifting from gold and black to deep reds. Short, accessible boardwalks allow visitors to get close to the delicate clay structures without damaging them. We absolutely enjoyed exploring this unique place. It’s surrounded with different trails and it’s so panoramic for pictures. Wallowa Mountains Also called Little Switzerland. This place is a must see. You can stay at Wallowa Lake resort renting a cabin or reserving RV spot. Home to high alpine lakes and jagged granite peaks. Features a gondola ride to the top of Mount Howard for views that stretch across to Idaho and Washington. Fort Rock Museum often called a Ghost Town. Located in the high desert of Central Oregon, it preserves the history of the hardy homesteaders who tried to farm this rugged landscape. The museum is laid out like a small village, featuring buildings moved from their original sites throughout the valley to protect them from decay. Highlights include: The Sunset School: The last remaining of 20 pioneer schoolhouses once in the valley.St. Rose’s Catholic Church: The only church built in the valley during the homestead era.The General Store: Packed with period-accurate goods, from kerosene lamps to vintage farm tools.The Belletable House: Believed to be the largest pioneer home in the valley.The Blacksmith Shop & Land Office: Essential structures for a 1900s community. Nearby “Must-Sees”If you are making the trip out to the museum, consider these nearby geological wonders:Fort Rock State Natural Area: The iconic “fortress” rock formation.Hole-in-the-Ground: A massive volcanic explosion crater (maar).Crack-in-the-Ground: A two-mile-long volcanic fissure you can actually hike through. Tillamook Creamery A massive cheese factory where you can take free tours and sample legendary Oregon-made ice cream. Oregon’s most popular coastal attractions, offering an immersive look at the world of dairy production. Located in Tillamook, it serves as a massive visitor center where guests can witness the cheesemaking process and enjoy fresh dairy products. If you teaveled to Oregon, what else can you add to this list? If you haven’t yet seen these places, you are missing out. Make it a one time life experience ✨️!!! Have fun!
Almost Got Kidnapped in Cancun Mexico It was during Spring Break. We decided to take a family vacation to Cancun Mexico to all inclusive resort for a week. Our flight with kids was better than what we expected. We arrived to our destination safely. We checked in, I am not going to give a name of our resort, because I don’t want to sabotage anybody to anything. This can happen in any resort, either in Mexico, or any other country. The reason why I’m writing this post, is for the awareness purposes, and to always putting safety to the highest priority. Now, don’t get me wrong. Overall vacation was bright, fun, and beautiful. We had a blast on the beach with our kids. I included some of the photos here to share with you. Our vacation was in March, and we really hoped for the weather to be clear and sunny. And it was. Weather was beautiful, clear, and sunny, and warm. We did enjoy Mexican cuisine, all lemonades by the pool we could order. Our kids made friends with other kids easily, they are very social. Now, a vacation with kids is a different type of vacation. There is a popular saying among parents: “It’s not a vacation; it’s just parenting in a different location.”While a “solo” or “couples” vacation is usually about relaxation and recharging, a family vacation is about experience and management. The kidnappers…. With all that said, one day, we decided to leave our two kids in Daycare area, it’s the area with fun pools, water play grounds, craft studios, mini tennis and a basketball court. I mean, everything that a kid could ever ask for. Me and my husband decided to stay on the upper floor pool for adults only for 2 hours while kids can have all the fun at the Daycare area. Daycare area was pretty much secured, you know, you check-in, give your room number, sign, and the same protocol when checking out a kid. Parents are welcome to stay with their kids in Daycare, and that’s what we did for all of the days during our vacation. We were there with our kids, except for that one day when we left them there by themselves for 2 hours. So, while we were staying in the pool on the upper floor, after about an hour of our stay, one guy with a mask comes over to us, and asks the names of our children. He explained that he works here in Daycare, and there are some children crying, and that he needed to get our children’s names. And I went ahead and told him the names. What was I thinking? He said – thank you – and went back downstairs. My heart was pounding, I knew something isn’t right here. My husband looked at me, and said to run back downstairs and take our children out of there, and that he didn’t feel right about this dude, I mean why would he ask our children’s names? All elevators were busy, so we took the stairs. We were running down stairs like a whirlwind. I mean I was praying, panicking, crying, and angry at myself. When we reached the daycare area downstairs, this guy with another stranger were already checking out our kids. I ran in there and screamed that I am their mother! While we were explaining the whole situation to the staff, these two strange man disappeared. We never saw them again for the rest of our stay. I wrote about all this, because I want you to be safe, know your surroundings, know and recognize people who surround you, specially when you’re with your kids on the vacation. Never leave them alone in Daycare, even if it’s just 2 hours long. Our children, always need to be there where we are. That’s it! When I think of it now, I realize that these two strangers were stocking us, knew our room stay, they knew our kids very well, and wanted to take an advantage of them while we were staying at the pool on the upper floor. How is it that we never saw them before? Now, we know better and through this experience, we are more careful and more curious. Despite all this, this trip offered us a different kind of reward. We got to see the world through a lens that we never got to see before. Our children are much more aware of how things are around here when not being watchful and careful. I really hope that this story won’t hinder you taking vacation trips to Mexico to all-inclusive resorts. I wrote about this, so we all can be on a watch. And to my conclusion I will say, see the big picture. A family vacation isn’t just a trip; it’s a transformative experience that builds a child’s identity and reinforces the family unit as a safe, adventurous, and loving team.
Modern Rustic I always enjoy visiting open houses to see style combinations of interior designs. And always enjoy to scroll through interior design ideas and find a balance for my home. I decided to share with one post combining the two styles, and that is modern with rustic. This is the first topic about designs in my blog and I hope it works out to generate all useful information here. So, let’s begin. I remembet when we were building our first home. It was a real hassle. Not only we needed to meet all the time lines, we also had to plan ahead on our interior design and choose the style of all the appliances and built in cabinets thoroughly. I looked through every magazine possible and searched through all different styles online. Here’s what I learned about this topic. Finding that “sweet spot” between a cozy mountain cabin and a sleek city loft is what the Modern Rustic (or Urban Farmhouse) aesthetic is all about. It’s the art of pairing something that has “lived a life” with something that just came off the showroom floor.Here is how to master the blend without making your home look like a cluttered antique shop or a cold gallery. The Foundation: Natural Textures + Clean LinesThe secret to this style is contrast. You want to pair the “rough” with the “smooth.” The Rustic: Exposed wooden beams, reclaimed wood coffee tables, or a stone fireplace. These bring warmth and history. The Modern: Thin-profile metal legs, large windows, and sharp, geometric furniture silhouettes. The Mix: Place a reclaimed oak dining table on top of a sleek, low-pile gray rug, or pair a chunky knit throw over a structured leather mid-century sofa. The Color Palette: “Organic Neutral”To keep the look modern, steer clear of the heavy, dark reds and greens of traditional rustic decor. Stick to a tonal palette:Tone ElementWarm Whites Walls and linen curtains to keep the space airy. Earth Tones Cognac leather, terracotta, and olive green for depth.Matte Black Hardware, light fixtures, and window frames to add “edge.” Architecture & LightingIn a Modern Rustic home, the lighting acts as the “jewelry.” Statement Lighting: Swap out basic fans for matte black chandeliers or Edison bulb pendants with industrial metal cages. Negative Space: Don’t over-decorate. The “Modern” side of this style loves breathing room. Let one large piece of driftwood or a single oversized clay vase be the focal point of a room. Bringing the Outdoors inside your home like plants, little potted trees is a great way to bring life to a space. Use greenery to soften the industrial edges. Large-scale plants: Think Fiddle Leaf Figs or Olive Trees in concrete pots. Raw Materials: Use unpolished brass, hammered copper, or slate coasters. Design Tip: If a room feels too “old,” add a piece of abstract black-and-white art. If it feels too “cold,” add a vintage Persian rug or a stack of firewood. Ultimately, the Modern Rustic style is about more than just matching furniture—it’s about creating a home that feels both grounded and forward-thinking. By blending the raw, soulful textures of the past with the clean, intentional lines of the present, you create a space that feels curated rather than just “decorated.” Whether you’re looking to find peace in the natural elements or seeking the structure of a modern layout, remember that the most important element in the room is your perspective. And here I will wrap up with my post and I hope you enjoyed it and got some useful tips for your home. Stay tuned for more interesting posts 📫…
Motivation for Tomorrow What’s your #1 priority tomorrow? Hey Everyone 👋, This is an interesting todays subject. As a mom of 3 children, married, with a busy life style – the priority is getting one step closer to my goal (finish blogging my book), and that means: Wakeup at 5am (I find this very productive starting my day early) Spiritual growth, Coffee, Blog (my book), lots of writing (and I enjoy it), Being a wifey to my hubby and a mommy to my kiddos and everything else in between. With a perfectionist inside of me, I do confess that it’s not always perfect and that’s ok. Things sometimes fall out of balance, and that’s where my strong ‘Why?’ comes in handy. “Why do I do what I do?” This always helps me to get back on track quickly. Making a vision board is also something I found it to be very helpful to keep me stay on the right road to ACTUALLY finish and achieve something that was planned. One step at time… Agree?… Read my blogged book here from the beginning – Destiny (part 1)
