How To Write A Book

Writing a book is a marathon, not a sprint. Whether you’re aiming for a sprawling fantasy epic or a tight business manual, the process generally breaks down into three distinct phases: Planning, Drafting, and Refining.

You cannot be a writer without being a reader first.

Here’s my process of writing my book Destiny (available on my website). I also have the book available on Amazon and on Kindle.

I wanted to write. I felt the urge that I must accomplish this skill in my life. My first story that I dreamed of writing was based on true story from my grandmother’s life experience. I wanted to make it in a fiction style using real life events. I knew that my book category will be placed in mystery, thriller, historical, suspense. I loved this idea from the very beginning. So, I kept going.

My first draft wasn’t very detailed. I didn’t have all the bright explanations of events, and the smooth flow of the story. My first draft was literally an outline of different people, places and events in quick story telling.

I read my “outline” like 10 times before I started rewriting everything with much more details.

Imagine your story as if you are the director and the producer of your movie.

Some people count words of how much they already wrote. Honestly, I hated doing that. I never counted words or kept track of it every single day. That doesn’t inspire me. I don’t like when there’s a “minimum you have to write” each day. My inspiration doesn’t fall on minimum or maximum. Limit disappears when inspired. You will find yourself one day writing non-stop, the story just flows smoothly on its own, next day – nothing really comes to mind. And so on it goes. You sort of have to “catch” the moment.

Instead, set a deadline – 6 to 8 months to type your final two words “The End” will make you keep going. You will eventually find that one thing that always inspires you.

Never go back and fix your grammar, typos and etc. You will do that later.

Your mission is to give your finished idea to a Publisher, not a professional looking story outline. Focus on the idea. Publishers will do the rest of the work. That’s their job. They get paid for creating your “writing project” to a “commercial product”. They will rewrite your “idea” story so good, that you won’t belive that it was actually you who gave them the job to do.

Go outside to find inspiration.

Listen to epic music (often called “Cinematic” or “Trailer Music”—is a favorite tool for authors because it acts as a neurological and emotional shortcut to the creative “flow state.”)

Watch a movie that inspires you to write.

Take a little hike, go to the beach.

You can fill in the list.

My personal inspiration for most of my writing days was my Epic Playlist on YouTube that I created over a little time. Maybe a Playlist with Cinematic Music will benefit you too during your writing moments.

When it’s finally time to submit your finished book to a Publisher, it can get frustrating at first. Most of Traditional Publishers don’t accept any submissions without a Literary Agent. If you choose to go the Traditional route, hire a Literary Agent who will represent your book.

A Traditional Publisher is a company that buys the right to publish your book and takes on all the financial risk of producing, distributing, and marketing it. In this model, the author should never pay the publisher; instead, the publisher pays the author.

I chose to go with a Hybrid Publisher with my book Destiny.

A Hybrid Publisher is a middle-ground model that combines elements of traditional publishing and self-publishing. In this setup, the author and the publisher share the risk: the author pays an upfront fee for professional services, and the publisher provides the expertise, distribution, and a higher share of the profits (royalties).

Or you can choose a route of Self Publishing Your Book.

The steep in this route is you are now a Business Owner not a writer. You now have to think how to sell your book, be the Marketing Expert.

Remember the nominated New York Times authors? The title goes to The Best Selling Author, not The Best Writing Author. So think about it.

Every Publisher wether the Traditional or Hybrid, Self Publishing aims to sell the idea in the book. All publishers have a team of educated experts, and they each do their assigned job in order to sell the book. They compete and they are highly competitive. Will you be this competitive?!

I’m not trying to scare you or put you down in some way if you were to choose the Self Publishing route. I’m just letting you know of the difficult reality in the Publishing World. If you are ready for the headache, and new learning curves, then this option is for you.

Writing World and the Publishing World are Two Different Worlds.

Publishing World is a Business World. If you are a one time book writer, and you don’t plan to write anymore books, then Self Publishing is your best option.  You get to keep all the royalties. 100% of earnings are your! You earned it!

These are a few of main points from my experience on how to successfully finish writing a book, and to successfully publish a book. Make your decision wisely. I want you to be successful, and never be scared of anything.

Don’t you ever think, that nobody will read your story.

Our worlds population is 8.28 billion people. Eventually there will be those that will read your book and find it very interesting.

Take care of yourself and continue writing!

How Do You Handle A Fight With Your Partner?

Recently, I have been blamed for everything negative in our family life. We are almost 20 years together, and we have beautiful three children. The argument started in front of family friends. My husband went negative on our church community, and eventually he doesn’t have a “stop button”, so does his voice tone… that’s when I blurted out to stop and cut it out and not talk about it anymore!

That’s when it got so heated! He started yelling how I am disrespectful to him, and that everything is always my fault!

I mean, I understand why he thought I was disrespectful, because I asked him to stop and be quiet in front of everybody. It just got way too far and so annoying. And this situation isn’t the first time of him being so pessimistic and negative… and that everyone must agree in what he’s saying, and think how he thinks.

This all leaves me drained and empty every single time.

I researched the 20 munute reset approach. But I just don’t feel like starting a conversation soon. Planning with these “piece talks”… I don’t know…

I do know that I have to aim for “I” statements rather than “You”, but I’m just not ready yet…

It’s just incredibly exhausting. It’s one thing to disagree on a topic like church, but it’s a whole different level of hurt when a conversation turns into him “flipping” and making you the scapegoat for his life’s problems.

It’s really hard sometimes to find the middle ground.

I needed to share with this, I believe I’m not the only one here, struggling sometimes with escalating emotions and behavior.

So, however you handle these situations… how do you handle fights and these meltdowns, you can share in comments bellow…

Thanks

“extra revenue” or “fast cash” online gig… They are a TRAP!!!

I, myself am a  VICTIM of these posts like, ” 14 side hustles that make up to $1,500 of weekly revenue”… or like, “12 night “jobs” that will make you extra $500 to 1k a week”… and so on, and so on… you fill in the blanks… uh…

The only people making real money are the ones selling the dream. You end up working for way less than minimum wage once you do the math. Better to put that energy into something that actually scales.

I will be real here – literally me, just a few months ago…

“I’ve been at my laptop for six hours straight clicking through these ‘high-yield’ surveys and data entry tasks, and my dashboard says I’ve earned… $4.12? Every ‘influencer’ on my feed makes it look so easy. ‘Just three hours a week!’ ‘Passive income!’ Well, I’m doing exactly what they said, and I’m literally losing money on electricity and coffee at this point.

Now the site says I can’t even withdraw the $4 until I hit $50? So I have to spend another sixty hours just to see a penny of my own time? It’s a joke. I’m exhausted, I’m broke, and I feel like I’m being scammed in broad daylight while everyone else pretends they’re getting rich. When does the ‘quick revenue’ actually start?”

I – like a fool tried everything they suggested… I’ve put so much energy and my time into making my “side hustles” work, until to the point I got more broke, more exhausted, frustrated, angry, hungry mom of 3 children, and a wife. WHAT WAS I THINKING?!


FAST MONEY IS A SCAM


If these jobs would have worked, everyone would be doing them on the daily basis, 🙄 no need to post something if it’s ordinary, or if this really works!!! Right?

I’ve been trading my most valuable asset – TIME – for digital pennies!

The sad reality is, that the only people who are getting rich – are the ones who’s writing posts like that (driving thousands online traffic into their page), or the ones who’s selling online courses of these so called “side hustles”!!!

And we believe them… we shouldn’t be anymore! We all need to stop buying into this ****, it’s time to get back up and be smart!


It’s tough when you’re looking for a financial win and keep running into “get rich quick” dead ends. The internet is full of “side hustles” that are really just digital treadmills.

Stop chasing ‘quick weekly revenue.’ Most low-barrier online gigs are just digital treadmills—you’re running hard but staying in the same place. If a job is easy to start and promises fast cash, the payout rarely justifies the time spent. Focus on building high-value skills, not collecting digital pennies.


As a VICTIM of this SCAM, my advice to you as a friend:

Keep your job – it pays your bills, puts bread on your table, fills gas in your car.

Develop ONE skill – it can be a hobby (ex. baking, knitting, blogging), or anything you dreamed of doing  and MAYBE BRING EXTRA INCOME. Don’t try to “kill yourself” doing it best right in the first week. You will exhaust yourself and eventually give  up. Start small. Remember that new and small beginnings, grow into a BIG future. Start with posting your new skill one time a week, until you get better and better at it, make more and more of social media posts to maybe share with more audience, not just your family and friends.

This is true consistency! This process will develop the true you! Where there’s nothing to prove to anybody, but to yourself, that you can definitely master something other than your job. Just this one skill! And see it yourself into what it eventually grows into being your main income, or continuously a fun side hustle that always helps you to express yourself and bring you joy!

Take a breath and remember: your value is not measured by your bank balance. Focus on what you can control today!

Places worth visiting in Oregon

Oregon is a state defined by its diverse landscapes, ranging from the rugged Pacific coastline and temperate rainforests to towering volcanic peaks and high-desert wonders. Whether you are seeking world-class hiking, scenic drives, or unique geological formations, the state offers a vast array of natural beauty.

I compiled 7 Oregon destinations that are must see if you are traveling to Oregon. And here they are, let’s dig in…

  1. Crater Lake National Park is Oregon’s only national park and features the deepest lake in the United States, formed inside a collapsed volcano.
    The water is famous for its intense blue color and incredible clarity.
    Visitors can drive the 33-mile Rim Drive for spectacular views or hike down to the water’s edge at Cleetwood Cove.

Silver Falls State Park is the biggest state park in the United States.

Often called the “crown jewel” of the Oregon State Parks system for its high concentration of cascades.

​Features the “Trail of Ten Falls,” a 7.2-mile loop that passes by ten distinct waterfalls.

Offers the unique experience of walking behind several massive sheets of falling water.

Smith Rock State Park is one of my favorite places to go. This place is surrounded with beautiful trails and views.

It provides a sharp contrast with its towering spires of volcanic tuff and rhyolite.
Considered the birthplace of modern American sport climbing.
Offers the “Misery Ridge” hike, which provides panoramic views of the Crooked River and the surrounding Cascades.

Moving into Central and Eastern Oregon, the landscape shifts to a high desert filled with vibrant colors and remote mountain ranges.

Painted Hills is one of the three units of the John Day Fossil Beds National Monument, famous for its colorful, striped hillsides.

  • The hills change hues with the light and moisture levels, shifting from gold and black to deep reds.
  • Short, accessible boardwalks allow visitors to get close to the delicate clay structures without damaging them.

We absolutely enjoyed exploring this unique place. It’s surrounded with different trails and it’s so panoramic for pictures.

Wallowa Mountains

Also called Little Switzerland. This place is a must see. You can stay at Wallowa Lake resort renting a cabin or reserving RV spot.

Home to high alpine lakes and jagged granite peaks. Features a gondola ride to the top of Mount Howard for views that stretch across to Idaho and Washington.

Fort Rock Museum often called a Ghost Town. Located in the high desert of Central Oregon, it preserves the history of the hardy homesteaders who tried to farm this rugged landscape.

The museum is laid out like a small village, featuring buildings moved from their original sites throughout the valley to protect them from decay. Highlights include:

The Sunset School: The last remaining of 20 pioneer schoolhouses once in the valley.
St. Rose’s Catholic Church: The only church built in the valley during the homestead era.
The General Store: Packed with period-accurate goods, from kerosene lamps to vintage farm tools.
The Belletable House: Believed to be the largest pioneer home in the valley.
The Blacksmith Shop & Land Office: Essential structures for a 1900s community.

Nearby “Must-Sees”
If you are making the trip out to the museum, consider these nearby geological wonders:
Fort Rock State Natural Area: The iconic “fortress” rock formation.
Hole-in-the-Ground: A massive volcanic explosion crater (maar).
Crack-in-the-Ground: A two-mile-long volcanic fissure you can actually hike through.

Tillamook Creamery

A massive cheese factory where you can take free tours and sample legendary Oregon-made ice cream.

Oregon’s most popular coastal attractions, offering an immersive look at the world of dairy production. Located in Tillamook, it serves as a massive visitor center where guests can witness the cheesemaking process and enjoy fresh dairy products.

If you teaveled to Oregon, what else can you add to this list? If you haven’t yet seen these places, you are missing out. Make it a one time life experience ✨️!!!

Have fun!