How To Write A Book Writing a book is a marathon, not a sprint. Whether you’re aiming for a sprawling fantasy epic or a tight business manual, the process generally breaks down into three distinct phases: Planning, Drafting, and Refining. You cannot be a writer without being a reader first. Here’s my process of writing my book Destiny (available on my website). I also have the book available on Amazon and on Kindle. I wanted to write. I felt the urge that I must accomplish this skill in my life. My first story that I dreamed of writing was based on true story from my grandmother’s life experience. I wanted to make it in a fiction style using real life events. I knew that my book category will be placed in mystery, thriller, historical, suspense. I loved this idea from the very beginning. So, I kept going. My first draft wasn’t very detailed. I didn’t have all the bright explanations of events, and the smooth flow of the story. My first draft was literally an outline of different people, places and events in quick story telling. I read my “outline” like 10 times before I started rewriting everything with much more details. Imagine your story as if you are the director and the producer of your movie. Some people count words of how much they already wrote. Honestly, I hated doing that. I never counted words or kept track of it every single day. That doesn’t inspire me. I don’t like when there’s a “minimum you have to write” each day. My inspiration doesn’t fall on minimum or maximum. Limit disappears when inspired. You will find yourself one day writing non-stop, the story just flows smoothly on its own, next day – nothing really comes to mind. And so on it goes. You sort of have to “catch” the moment. Instead, set a deadline – 6 to 8 months to type your final two words “The End” will make you keep going. You will eventually find that one thing that always inspires you. Never go back and fix your grammar, typos and etc. You will do that later. Your mission is to give your finished idea to a Publisher, not a professional looking story outline. Focus on the idea. Publishers will do the rest of the work. That’s their job. They get paid for creating your “writing project” to a “commercial product”. They will rewrite your “idea” story so good, that you won’t belive that it was actually you who gave them the job to do. Go outside to find inspiration. Listen to epic music (often called “Cinematic” or “Trailer Music”—is a favorite tool for authors because it acts as a neurological and emotional shortcut to the creative “flow state.”) Watch a movie that inspires you to write. Take a little hike, go to the beach. You can fill in the list. My personal inspiration for most of my writing days was my Epic Playlist on YouTube that I created over a little time. Maybe a Playlist with Cinematic Music will benefit you too during your writing moments. When it’s finally time to submit your finished book to a Publisher, it can get frustrating at first. Most of Traditional Publishers don’t accept any submissions without a Literary Agent. If you choose to go the Traditional route, hire a Literary Agent who will represent your book. A Traditional Publisher is a company that buys the right to publish your book and takes on all the financial risk of producing, distributing, and marketing it. In this model, the author should never pay the publisher; instead, the publisher pays the author. I chose to go with a Hybrid Publisher with my book Destiny. A Hybrid Publisher is a middle-ground model that combines elements of traditional publishing and self-publishing. In this setup, the author and the publisher share the risk: the author pays an upfront fee for professional services, and the publisher provides the expertise, distribution, and a higher share of the profits (royalties). Or you can choose a route of Self Publishing Your Book. The steep in this route is you are now a Business Owner not a writer. You now have to think how to sell your book, be the Marketing Expert. Remember the nominated New York Times authors? The title goes to The Best Selling Author, not The Best Writing Author. So think about it. Every Publisher wether the Traditional or Hybrid, Self Publishing aims to sell the idea in the book. All publishers have a team of educated experts, and they each do their assigned job in order to sell the book. They compete and they are highly competitive. Will you be this competitive?! I’m not trying to scare you or put you down in some way if you were to choose the Self Publishing route. I’m just letting you know of the difficult reality in the Publishing World. If you are ready for the headache, and new learning curves, then this option is for you. Writing World and the Publishing World are Two Different Worlds. Publishing World is a Business World. If you are a one time book writer, and you don’t plan to write anymore books, then Self Publishing is your best option. You get to keep all the royalties. 100% of earnings are your! You earned it! These are a few of main points from my experience on how to successfully finish writing a book, and to successfully publish a book. Make your decision wisely. I want you to be successful, and never be scared of anything. Don’t you ever think, that nobody will read your story. Our worlds population is 8.28 billion people. Eventually there will be those that will read your book and find it very interesting. Take care of yourself and continue writing!
“extra revenue” or “fast cash” online gig… They are a TRAP!!! I, myself am a VICTIM of these posts like, ” 14 side hustles that make up to $1,500 of weekly revenue”… or like, “12 night “jobs” that will make you extra $500 to 1k a week”… and so on, and so on… you fill in the blanks… uh… The only people making real money are the ones selling the dream. You end up working for way less than minimum wage once you do the math. Better to put that energy into something that actually scales. I will be real here – literally me, just a few months ago… “I’ve been at my laptop for six hours straight clicking through these ‘high-yield’ surveys and data entry tasks, and my dashboard says I’ve earned… $4.12? Every ‘influencer’ on my feed makes it look so easy. ‘Just three hours a week!’ ‘Passive income!’ Well, I’m doing exactly what they said, and I’m literally losing money on electricity and coffee at this point. Now the site says I can’t even withdraw the $4 until I hit $50? So I have to spend another sixty hours just to see a penny of my own time? It’s a joke. I’m exhausted, I’m broke, and I feel like I’m being scammed in broad daylight while everyone else pretends they’re getting rich. When does the ‘quick revenue’ actually start?” I – like a fool tried everything they suggested… I’ve put so much energy and my time into making my “side hustles” work, until to the point I got more broke, more exhausted, frustrated, angry, hungry mom of 3 children, and a wife. WHAT WAS I THINKING?! FAST MONEY IS A SCAM If these jobs would have worked, everyone would be doing them on the daily basis, 🙄 no need to post something if it’s ordinary, or if this really works!!! Right? I’ve been trading my most valuable asset – TIME – for digital pennies! The sad reality is, that the only people who are getting rich – are the ones who’s writing posts like that (driving thousands online traffic into their page), or the ones who’s selling online courses of these so called “side hustles”!!! And we believe them… we shouldn’t be anymore! We all need to stop buying into this ****, it’s time to get back up and be smart! It’s tough when you’re looking for a financial win and keep running into “get rich quick” dead ends. The internet is full of “side hustles” that are really just digital treadmills. Stop chasing ‘quick weekly revenue.’ Most low-barrier online gigs are just digital treadmills—you’re running hard but staying in the same place. If a job is easy to start and promises fast cash, the payout rarely justifies the time spent. Focus on building high-value skills, not collecting digital pennies. As a VICTIM of this SCAM, my advice to you as a friend: Keep your job – it pays your bills, puts bread on your table, fills gas in your car. Develop ONE skill – it can be a hobby (ex. baking, knitting, blogging), or anything you dreamed of doing and MAYBE BRING EXTRA INCOME. Don’t try to “kill yourself” doing it best right in the first week. You will exhaust yourself and eventually give up. Start small. Remember that new and small beginnings, grow into a BIG future. Start with posting your new skill one time a week, until you get better and better at it, make more and more of social media posts to maybe share with more audience, not just your family and friends. This is true consistency! This process will develop the true you! Where there’s nothing to prove to anybody, but to yourself, that you can definitely master something other than your job. Just this one skill! And see it yourself into what it eventually grows into being your main income, or continuously a fun side hustle that always helps you to express yourself and bring you joy! Take a breath and remember: your value is not measured by your bank balance. Focus on what you can control today!
Almost Got Kidnapped in Cancun Mexico It was during Spring Break. We decided to take a family vacation to Cancun Mexico to all inclusive resort for a week. Our flight with kids was better than what we expected. We arrived to our destination safely. We checked in, I am not going to give a name of our resort, because I don’t want to sabotage anybody to anything. This can happen in any resort, either in Mexico, or any other country. The reason why I’m writing this post, is for the awareness purposes, and to always putting safety to the highest priority. Now, don’t get me wrong. Overall vacation was bright, fun, and beautiful. We had a blast on the beach with our kids. I included some of the photos here to share with you. Our vacation was in March, and we really hoped for the weather to be clear and sunny. And it was. Weather was beautiful, clear, and sunny, and warm. We did enjoy Mexican cuisine, all lemonades by the pool we could order. Our kids made friends with other kids easily, they are very social. Now, a vacation with kids is a different type of vacation. There is a popular saying among parents: “It’s not a vacation; it’s just parenting in a different location.”While a “solo” or “couples” vacation is usually about relaxation and recharging, a family vacation is about experience and management. The kidnappers…. With all that said, one day, we decided to leave our two kids in Daycare area, it’s the area with fun pools, water play grounds, craft studios, mini tennis and a basketball court. I mean, everything that a kid could ever ask for. Me and my husband decided to stay on the upper floor pool for adults only for 2 hours while kids can have all the fun at the Daycare area. Daycare area was pretty much secured, you know, you check-in, give your room number, sign, and the same protocol when checking out a kid. Parents are welcome to stay with their kids in Daycare, and that’s what we did for all of the days during our vacation. We were there with our kids, except for that one day when we left them there by themselves for 2 hours. So, while we were staying in the pool on the upper floor, after about an hour of our stay, one guy with a mask comes over to us, and asks the names of our children. He explained that he works here in Daycare, and there are some children crying, and that he needed to get our children’s names. And I went ahead and told him the names. What was I thinking? He said – thank you – and went back downstairs. My heart was pounding, I knew something isn’t right here. My husband looked at me, and said to run back downstairs and take our children out of there, and that he didn’t feel right about this dude, I mean why would he ask our children’s names? All elevators were busy, so we took the stairs. We were running down stairs like a whirlwind. I mean I was praying, panicking, crying, and angry at myself. When we reached the daycare area downstairs, this guy with another stranger were already checking out our kids. I ran in there and screamed that I am their mother! While we were explaining the whole situation to the staff, these two strange man disappeared. We never saw them again for the rest of our stay. I wrote about all this, because I want you to be safe, know your surroundings, know and recognize people who surround you, specially when you’re with your kids on the vacation. Never leave them alone in Daycare, even if it’s just 2 hours long. Our children, always need to be there where we are. That’s it! When I think of it now, I realize that these two strangers were stocking us, knew our room stay, they knew our kids very well, and wanted to take an advantage of them while we were staying at the pool on the upper floor. How is it that we never saw them before? Now, we know better and through this experience, we are more careful and more curious. Despite all this, this trip offered us a different kind of reward. We got to see the world through a lens that we never got to see before. Our children are much more aware of how things are around here when not being watchful and careful. I really hope that this story won’t hinder you taking vacation trips to Mexico to all-inclusive resorts. I wrote about this, so we all can be on a watch. And to my conclusion I will say, see the big picture. A family vacation isn’t just a trip; it’s a transformative experience that builds a child’s identity and reinforces the family unit as a safe, adventurous, and loving team.
Motivation for Tomorrow What’s your #1 priority tomorrow? Hey Everyone 👋, This is an interesting todays subject. As a mom of 3 children, married, with a busy life style – the priority is getting one step closer to my goal (finish blogging my book), and that means: Wakeup at 5am (I find this very productive starting my day early) Spiritual growth, Coffee, Blog (my book), lots of writing (and I enjoy it), Being a wifey to my hubby and a mommy to my kiddos and everything else in between. With a perfectionist inside of me, I do confess that it’s not always perfect and that’s ok. Things sometimes fall out of balance, and that’s where my strong ‘Why?’ comes in handy. “Why do I do what I do?” This always helps me to get back on track quickly. Making a vision board is also something I found it to be very helpful to keep me stay on the right road to ACTUALLY finish and achieve something that was planned. One step at time… Agree?… Read my blogged book here from the beginning – Destiny (part 1)